Thursday, March 3, 2011

Slice of Normal


I am a delinquent blogger for two reasons. First, I haven't had any time whatsoever. I thought I was busy with the basic care of 3 kids 3 and under. Well, now I really know what it means to barely keep my head above water. While technically, Keith has been home for almost two weeks, we have still spent a significant time at the hospital. After tomorrow, we will have spent the last 4 out of 5 days at the hospital, with no visit lasting less than 3 hours. I'm beginning to feel like the oncology clinic is the black-hole of time. There is no such thing as a quick visit.
The second reason for my delinquency is that we are doing our best to enjoy some semblance of normalcy at home. I don't dare take any time when the kids are awake to do anything but enjoy being together. (In the interest of full disclosure, I might have slipped out for a quick run when possible.)





We've been doing our best to have Keith pursue the same activities he enjoyed before surgery, with the two huge exceptions of being able to chase and wrestle Cole. We can't wait for that to resume. But until then, Keith can color, paint, build, work with playdough and stickers, and even get out of the house a bit. (Thank you! Thank you to all those who have sent activities and/or care packages. Formal notes of appreciation are coming soon!)
He walked on his very own the first time we took him to a toy store with large toys on display. Apparently, a little motivation goes a long way! We couldn't believe how he could get from one area of toys to the other when he wanted to get there. The best weapons are helping him forget that it's difficult and helping him focus on something he wants. At home, Keith sometimes lacks confidence to get to the bathroom or to the table but you get him doing something fun and it's amazing what he can do.
Just yesterday, he heard Grandma Smart come to the front door and he appeared in the entry way all by himself, when just moments before, he had been sitting on the couch 3 rooms away! That was huge. I was beyond excited to see him take that kind of initiative at home.


Keith had another surgery this week to insert his port-a-cath which works like an internal IV. This allows the clinic to draw blood and administer chemo without having to put in an IV every time he goes in. It's a port right under the skin in his chest that has a catheter inserted into a vein close to his heart. Thirty minutes before each chemo treatment, I will put numbing cream over the port and by the time we get to the appointment, they will be able to put a needle through the skin and directly into the port to access his vein. It's pretty amazing what they can do.
Surgery went well. Keith was up and playing the next morning without any complaints. In the picture below, he's riding a car in the surgery waiting area, blissfully unaware of the pending surgery and even worse to him, the blood draw...I hope he will forget or at least forgive me for every time I've had to help pin him down while the nurses prick, poke, rip, tear, push, pull and tug at him. In my next life, I'm going to be a Dad, where I get to show up bearing gifts after the torture. 
(In all fairness, Brent has been there for plenty of torture, but being the most available parent, I do bear the majority of it.)


Keith insists on wearing his hospital band. He calls it his watch. He also cleaned out the surgery floor of their Spiderman band-aids. The kid has them EVERYWHERE.


Today, Brent and I met with the oncologist to officially decide on Keith's treatment plan. Like many cancer-patients (or legal guardians of a cancer-patient in this case), we were faced with a decision to choose the standard treatment or opt for a clinical study. I don't really feel like going into all the details here because it has been emotional for me and frankly, the decision is behind us now. Either way, there are long-term side-effects of radiation to the brain and spine. The most difficult for me to swallow is that Keith's neuro-cognitive development will take a hit. The younger the patient, the bigger the deficit and being only 3 years old and considering the area of the brain they will be radiating, his neuro-cognitive abilities will suffer. To what degree, we can estimate, but we don't know. Still we hope and pray for the best. Keith hasn't stopped beating the odds yet.
In the end, after looking at some applicable studies and engaging in extensive discussion and kneeling in fervent prayer, we chose standard treatment. We feel good about it. We're going forward and we're not looking back.

Tomorrow Keith goes in for his CT Simulation which allows the physicists to make his mask for radiation therapy. Next week he'll have another MRI. That will be the last task before the physicists make final plans for his particular radiation set-up. Keith starts his treatment on March 14. It will be Monday through Friday for 6 weeks. Because it is crucial that he hold still for several minutes at a time during those treatments, he will need to be sedated. This means fasting 6 hours prior to the appointments and an hour of recovery time after each appointment. So, with travel time, it will be a few hour ordeal every morning for a few weeks. But we would be headed to the hospital at least once a week for chemo anyway, so why not go every day, right?
In all honesty, we feel fortunate to live so close to such great care. I've talked to many parents who travel decent distances for treatments or simply displace their family for those 6 weeks or however long treatment lasts. That would be a whole other challenge that we are fortunate enough to not face.
So, anyway, this is a ridiculously long post. But I wanted to update Keith's fans. I've received a few hints from people that they like hearing how their favorite Super hero is beating all the "bad guys" out there. In this case, I suppose there's only one bad guy. But if I were him (or it), I'd watch out. Keith is on the move.

13 comments:

ellen said...

I've been thinking about you; thanks for the update. I hope and pray things go well.

Mindy said...

Such a cute post, Beetle and I have been wondering how you and Brent and little Keith have been doing. We are all still praying for you guys.Good luck with all those treatments and being so busy. When Beetle first heard about Keith he said "If anyone can make it through something like this, it would be Darcee." Now I know why, you are one strong Mom!

The Veals said...

Thanks for the update Darcee. I have to literally hide my phone because I've wanted to call you so badly but haven't wanted to interrupt mch needed family time. My mom still has a plastic cap from her catheter, right next to her heart, from her transplant 19 years ago. She had to leave us for 3 months and go to Seattle for her treatment. So yes, I know how lucky you are to have such good care so close to home. If you need anything give me a call, we love yo guys!

Tracy Haws said...

I know it took time to post and I just wanted you to know how much it means. Thank you. We continue to pray for ya'll.

(I find it humorous that my security word is "Fatuffs"...maybe I need to sneak in a few more runs like you Darc? lol.)

Ditto Family said...

Balancing time with family, pleasure, and the rest can certainly be a challenge. I think that each time you sneak away to update your blog you are also benefiting the family because this is a chapter in your life, that though will have hard memories will also bring back many opportunities for seeing the hand of God in your life.

Do the nurses give Keith Vercede before his treatments? When Alex was younger I felt this drug was God-sent as it really helped alleviate much of the fear of getting the IV's put in and being wheeled away from mommy and daddy to surgery.

We continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.

Saimi said...

I love your posts and the updates on Keith and your darling little family! Thank you!!

It's good to see a smile on that little super hero's face!

Darrell said...

Keith is our Super Man, but you are definitely "Wonder Woman". You've always been my hero. Stay strong; you are an inspiration to us all.

Stacey06 said...

It's soo good to hear what has been going on with Keith. Thank You for the pictures! I just marvel at your strength Darcee. Please know that your family continues to be in our prayers. I think of you all often, take care.

Rangi said...

Thanks for the update. We continue to pray for Keith and know he will beat this.

Becki said...

It was so nice seeing everyone today. I have missed you sitting on your bench and Ally pointing to Caleb and calling him "Baby". I felt nice to have that back.

We love you and will do anything you need.

Keith is my special buddy from way back and I know he can beat this.

We will continue to keep you in our prayers.

Chad and Amy Hatfield said...

Trust me, I KNOW about the black hole in Hemonc. It can be very frustrating. Even when you think you have a handle on it, you find out about another test or something is going to take twice as long. Frustrating!

I'm so glad you all have been able to be home though. That is a blessing. Keith looks great!

Good luck with radiation. As with all of this, never let a number hold weight with you. He's YOUR child and numbers don't apply to him! He'll be fine and if anything only be a semi-genius instead of blowing us all out of the water. :)

Tiffany said...

I'm glad Keith is doing well and is so strong. It also takes really strong parents to help and watch through all the treatments. I have been in your shoes with having to help pin down a child while nurses poke and do their stuff. It's certainly not an easy thing to watch your child go through, but you are definitely a strong mother for it.

SLP said...

Lots of tough decisions - not easy.
My thoughts and prayers are with you...
Love,
S