Due to radiation and now chemo, Keith's blood counts continue to be very low; meaning his immune system is unable to fight off infection easily, which means he should be at home and I should be limiting his exposure to people. Especially people who manifest the big 3: cough, runny nose or fever. I've been drilled (in a friendly way). I know the rules when his blood counts are low.
But when Keith came home from radiation on Tuesday, upset (as usual) he asked for something specific: a trip to the Children's Museum. Hmmm...That is definitely not a place he should go. It's crawling with kids and their cooties. There is no way for me to tell if anyone at the museum has the forbidden symptoms and honestly, some kids probably do.
On the flip side, Keith is sad every day. I would shave off my eyebrows if he told me it would make him smile. Normally, this is one of our favorite outings and we used to go often. I was pleasantly surprised that he was even asking to do something that reminded him of his healthier days.
So, I thought about it for all of a nano-second, decided that his mental health was just as important as his physical well-being and we were out the door.
Keith was the happiest that I've seen him in 2 months. And on top of that he did more physical therapy in 2 hours than he's done in the past 2 weeks! He all but refused to hold hands and was bending, climbing and playing like I haven't seen him do on his own in a long time. Most importantly, he was smiling. (At least until it was time to go home.)
The next day at his oncology appointment, the nurse practitioner went over his dropping blood counts and I felt really guilty. Not guilty enough to confess. Not guilty enough to ask permission for the future. Not even guilty enough to refuse him less than 24 hours later when he begged to go again. I slathered on the hand-sanitizer every 10 minutes and prevented the kids from doing a few of the more germ-infested activities. (ie: the water station) But yes, technically, I broke the rules. More than once. I'll probably do it again. Don't judge me.
To continue the rule-breaking theme for the week and also to acknowledge the half-way point of Keith's radiation treatment, we took a trip to the Aquarium.
It was a really fun trip with G&G Burnett, Uncle Clint, Aunt Julie and Cousin Caden. The drive home taught us that we should keep most outings a little closer to home but it was still fun to get out as a family.
Ally commemorated the mid-way point of Keith's radiation by going topless and by plastering herself with 67 stickers. Don't judge her (or her mother).
Overall, we are doing fine. Keith has brought new meaning to the word trooper. He still has moments of stomach upset, but for the most part we have the nausea contained. (Thanks to a second anti-nausea medication and more on-the-job nurse training.) He has also completed spine radiation and has moved on to focused brain radiation so we are hoping that helps to counter the nausea as well. Mostly, he's fatigued. We have to respect his window of alertness and make the most of it.
Radiation countdown: 3 weeks down. 3 weeks to go.
17 comments:
Darcee you're amazing! Keith (and your other adorable kiddos) is lucky to have a mom like you! Good luck with all the rest of the treatments/procedures/I don't even know what! I still think of you often and we're still praying for you guys.
I would probably do the same thing to make him smile. No judging here. You are a wonderful mother and you know best for your child. Love the pics, he is so cute. Sounds like a fun outing.
Seriously, that was the best thing you could have done for that little guy! He needs to have fun in his life and by doing so, it will make him stronger mentally to fight this!
Way too go!! And that Ally Holy Cow is she a cutie pie!!
No one would EVER judge you Darc! I'm glad he was able to have some fun! Hang in there for those next 3 weeks! I hope you were able to get a little bit of conference in... I thought about you a lot during it (The parts I was able to listen to in between kid stuff :) ) Love ya!
JEsica
Darcee,
I also thought a lot about you guys during conference this weekend, you are all such great examples of enduring your challenges and in such a positive way. Keep hanging in there!
P.S. Your little Ali is getting so big, she is SO cute!!!
Remember that while you are trying to extend the 'quantity' aspect of Keith, there is a 'quality' aspect too, your balancing both Mom - way to go!
Thinking of you,
S
We were so glad you guys came down and went to the aquarium. There's still talk going on around here about "octopus", "sea lions" and "Keith, Cole and Ally". That is a long drive for you guys. I hope it wasn't too bad on the way home!
Don't judge you? Really? How could any of us not judge you to be one of the best moms around. If I were sick I'd wish you were my mom! You and Brent are doing such a good job of maintaining normalcy for your family. I'm really proud to know you.
I would have done the same thing!! Hey, I would shave MY eyebrows if Keith asked me. I completely get it.
If you need to apologize, we're all in trouble. You're amazing. Lil' Keith is amazing too. Those bald heads look like lil' monkey heads to me--the Curious George exhibit is perfect for all three of your lil' monkeys.
I think a mother's intuition is the best "medicine" for any situation, so I think it's wonderful that you followed Keith's desires. You are both amazing, Darcee and Brent! We will be praying for you, and Keith during the next 3 weeks. We love you guys!
Yay for breaking rules!!! I'm so glad that his belly is doing better and for the half way point to have come and gone! Hang in the Keith, we love you!
Loved the pics! thanks for the update--i miss not being able to call. love you all lots and im really proud of you. PS. im back friday and ill give you a call then.
I ditto all the comments Darc...No one could help but judge you to be the best mom! My mom would often give us "mental health days" and I plan on doing the same. Love you and yours!
I'm so happy to see big smile on Keith's face!! Looks like you had a fun couple of days. You and Brent are the funnest parents!
Good for you guys! Glad to know that Keith is more than half way through. Hang in there.
Hey Darcee! I could never judge you! You are such a good mom! You have it spot on! Mental and emotional health is so important, and can even improve healing:) You guys are in our prayers! Hang in there! Lots of hugs for everyone!
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